ParentShift is filled with detailed and adaptable, step-by-step instructions. In my house, I get lots of opportunities to practice dealing with things like tantrums and attention-seeking behaviors. Instead of utilizing my previous method of confused emotional reaction, I now get almost excited to execute the pragmatic, prepared plans — and they really work!
— Emily Nielson, adoptive mother of three, ages 6, 7 and 8
Parentshift is a constant guide for maintaining healthy relationships with my children. I've dealt and still deal with too many toxic relationships. I don't want to have one with my children. For me, ParentShift is more than a parenting book. It's a self-help book. It recharges my batteries.
— Ladaryl Rose, father of three, ages 5 and 3 and 11 months.
“An encyclopedic exploration of the most effective methods for giving children the courage to realize their full potential.”
― ADELE FABER,
co-author of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
“Linda and Ty Hatfield’s heart-centered approach, presented in this book with Wendy Thomas Russell, helps parents develop the skills to move beyond punishment and rewards, sidestep power struggles, and strengthen the parent-child relationship . . . ParentShift works because it changes the way you SEE your child. It should be on every family’s bookshelf.”
— LAURA MARKHAM, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids
“A must-read for parents, caregivers and grandparents. The authors give practical, down- to-earth options for the everyday issues, conflicts, and roadblocks that we all experience, while helping our children become responsible, resilient, resourceful, compassionate human beings who know how to think—not just what to think.”
— BARBARA COLOROSO, author of The Kids Are Worth It!
“ParentShift exposes the fake news of the necessity to discipline and control children, and replaces it with the true news that children are harmed by domination and thrive on connection, unconditional love, and respect. While quoting the work of many reputable authors and researchers of the last fifty years, the authors provide parents an incredibly powerful and clear system to shift their way of being from gut reactors to intelligent responders and from getting compliance in the moment to ensuring the child unfolds into a highly self-esteemed, self-reliant, loving, and thriving person.”
— NAOMI ALDORT, author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves
“If you want a deeply connected, heart-centered relationship with your child, you owe it to yourself to learn from these masters. ParentShift is one of the most comprehensive and time-tested parenting books around. If you have only one parenting book in your library, this should be the one.”
— VICKIE FALCONE, author of Buddha Never Raised Kids & Jesus Didn’t Drive Carpool
“The best thing about ParentShift is the enduring focus on how it’s actually the adults behavior, rather than the child’s, that is most predictive of healthy development. We must grow ourselves before we grow our children. Brilliant!”
— VANESSA LAPOINTE, author of Discipline Without Damage
“I’m delighted to endorse a book so thoroughly devoted to a win-win approach to parenting, one that takes the needs of both parents and children into consideration. You’ll find loads of tips, charts, examples, and brief assignments along with easy-to-read text written with empathy and good humor. Here are some of the best tools available to help you build the best possible, mutually respectful, and loving, life-long relationships with your kids.”
— JANE BLUESTEIN, author of The Parent’s Little Book of Lists
"I have admired Linda and Ty Hatfield’s Parenting from the Heart program for many years, and am thrilled that they have partnered with journalist Wendy Thomas Russell to create what might well be the most comprehensive and authoritative book ever on enlightened parenting. It is uniquely organized by ten universal truths that will guide you to be the best possible parents of the best possible children."
— IZZY KALMAN, author of Bullies to Buddies
“Parenting without punishment, threats, rewards, or bribery seemed like a fantasy until Wendy Thomas Russell enrolled in Ty and Linda Hatfield’s Parenting from the Heart course, which draws from Adlerian psychology and its offshoots. In ParentShift—an upbeat, modern guide with classic roots—give a loving alternative."
— Foreword Reviews
“A beautiful manual for parents who desire positive change in the parent-child relationship. The depth and scope of this work is profound, vast, and life-changing. Not to be read only once, a resource like this provides valuable support throughout time.”
— LYNETTE ANDERSON, director of Hilltop Preschool, Fountain Valley
“They say there’s no how-to book for parenting . . . but this is it.”
— JENNY MARDER, mother of two
"Exceptionally well written, organized and presented, ParentShift is impressively 'user friendly' for the non-specialist general reader and unreservedly recommended for personal, community, and academic library Parenting instructional reference collections."
— Midwest Book Review
"I loved that the practical guidelines were exactly that, practical, and that having very real boundaries is still acceptable in today's parenting world."
— ROBIN-LEE ADAMS, NetGalley Reviewer
"ParentShift is just the book I needed in this season of life. The authors carefully explain how to shift thinking from a punishment-based disciplinary system to one where you, the parent, can really work to see your child as a human being, albeit younger and less experienced, and move from a system of control to mutual respect through positive reinforcement of behavior... ParentShift will be on my bookshelf for years to come."
— SHAY FORT, NetGalley Reviewer
"Through 'Parent Shift' I learned methods to use and methods to avoid and why. Not only was this book super informative, but it was written in a way that made it a pleasure to read."
— KORIE KAHN, NetGalley Reviewer
"Oh, how I wish this book had been around when my child was a toddler! This was an excellent read with sound science to support the writers' premise that many of the things we have been taught about parenting are myths."
— PAMELA JOHNSON, NetGalley Reviewer
"Parentshift is an excellent book for parents who want to discover more about why their children sometimes act in challenging ways and how they can resolve issues without making them worse. I enjoyed the style of the book and found the author knowledgeable and thoughtful. A great help to any family."
— JEN LYNCH, NetGalley Reviewer
"What I really liked about this book is that it gives you actual practical advice and tips. Also, it does not pretend that the ParentShift method is perfect, or that parents using the ParentShift method will never make a mistake. Totally recommended to parents and everybody that has interactions with children."
— MARIA VERONICA SALDINO, NetGalley Reviewer
The strategies outlined in ParentShift have, without a doubt, been a game changer in the way I parent. Tantrums were the worst and I never knew how to handle them. But understanding the stages and seeing them as "fight or flight" behaviors really helped me in framing my responses in a way that were more empathetic. What a difference it has made in my relationship to my son.